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A proposal is a big event, and it is a great idea to go looking for a little bit of input from your friends and family as you start to plan. However, you have to be wary- a lot of people have their own ideas about how a proposal should go, and they aren’t always willing to back off if you don’t agree. Be wary of succumbing to peer pressure! We’ve highlighted a few of the hot points for peer pressure, just to help you along your way.
Money
Money is something that everyone has a strong opinion about, and that can really get in the way of your proposal planning. A lot of people will urge you to spend more than you can really afford, citing the fact that a proposal is a once-in-a-lifetime event; that’s true, but it’s no reason to start your married life with proposal debt! On the other hand, some people think that everything should be done on a dime, and may scoff at any luxuries you feel like working into your proposal. Listen to both sides, but stick to a budget that you feel comfortable with.
Publicity
The general sentiment seems to be that to have a great proposal, you have to go big and showy; this simply isn’t the case. A lot of amazing proposals have been done with friends, family, and even crowd of observers around, but a lot of equally wonderful proposals are done in private, with only a few close loved ones, or no one but the happy couple. Think about what your sweetheart likes- crowds or privacy? Choose what will make her happy and most comfortable.
Perfection
There’s a lot of pressure from all directions to make your proposal perfect- with no faults, no flaws, no missteps or mistakes. The truth is, there is no way to make your proposal perfect. Even if everything goes as you planned it, there will be someone, somewhere who thinks they could have done it better. Don’t give in to the pressure; plan the proposal that will make your sweetheart happy, and don’t let anyone judge you by any other standard.
Need a professional to steer you away from the peer pressure and into the right direction for a the perfect proposal idea? Contact The Heart Bandits today for pressure free advice and exemplary planning.
Beth Beeson