After the proposal comes along the stressful season of planning for the upcoming wedding. What venue? What dresses? Which decorations? What kind of music? An enterprising young man named Ryan Leake took all of this on himself, and planned a stunning event: a proposal and a wedding on the same day. Understandably, this one-of-a-kind undertaking has garnered some attention, and you might be wondering, “Should I Propose and Get Married on the Same Day?” We thought we would explore the pros and cons of a same-day proposal and wedding.
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Here are some Pro’s to consider:
Streamlined
With only one person doing all of the setup, it’s likely that the days or months of gridlock caused by the big decisions can be avoided. The wedding is more likely to come in under budget, too, because with one person handling all the details, it’s less likely that there will be any surprise expenses.
Double-Dip
If you were to propose and get married on separate dates, you would need 2 of everything. 2 photographers, 2 venues, etc. If you propose and say “I Do,” on the same day, you can save tons of money by only having to book one of each.
Unique
How many people do you know who’ve proposed and gotten married on the same day? Unless you’re a friend of Ryan and Amanda Leake, probably not too many. This is an opportunity to make it a once-in-a-lifetime experience not only for yourselves, but for the wedding party and guests as well.
Mind-blowing
It’s hard to think of something more surprising than a proposal that comes complete with the dress, veil, chapel and guests. Your soon-to-be-bride will be flabbergasted by the initiative, planning and forethought that you used to put this event together, and it will certainly remain an indelible memory for the rest of your lives.
And now for the Con’s you should consider if you are wondering “Should I Propose and Get Married on the Same Day?”
Planning to the Max
Are you really ready to undertake every detail of a full-blown wedding all by yourself? Usually it takes all of a couple’s wits to plan a successful wedding, and that doesn’t even include the logistics of proposing the same day. We advise you to really think about if you can realistically handle that load. Consider hiring a Wedding Proposal Planners – The Heart Bandits and a Wedding Planner from www.poptheknot.com.
Things Might Not Be Perfect
Many people have a perfect wedding in their imagination, and by planning a surprise wedding, you’re taking the responsibility of making their special day as perfect as they have pictured. Ryan Leake had an advantage- his beloved had already planned her dream wedding down to the last detail, and posted it all on Pinterest. Are you sure you know what your bride/groom’s-to-be’s dream wedding looks like? They may feel let down if you don’t do it exactly how they dreamed so be careful here.
The Journey is Half the Fun
Your wedding will be one of the most important events in your lives, and it’s very likely that your sweetheart wants to have a hand in the event. If you do it all yourself, it could be that you will deprive them of joy planning and organization, and you will be robbing yourself of the pleasure of working alongside them. Planning a life-changing event like your wedding can actually bring a couple closer together. So this is something you both would miss out on if you went this route.
Possible Resentment
If your partner does feel the 3 things mentioned above, they may be left with a lingering feeling of resentment. Maybe you forget to invite someone that meant the world to them. Maybe it mean everything to them to wear their late Grandmother’s pearl necklace. This is a risk that you take if you want to break tradition and get married right after you pop the question.
We actually had the honor of planning a surprise proposal and wedding for our client Bryan. Bryan first proposed on the beach right outside of a gorgeous Malibu restaurant. After the proposal, we headed down to another part of the beach where her friends and family were waiting for the pop-up wedding! You can read all about this special event at the article below:
Hopefully this answers your question, “Should I Propose and Get Married on the Same Day?” If you decide the answer is yes, we can help. If you want an extraordinary proposal, but you’re not sure about planning an entire proposal and wedding yourself, then consult the experts- The Heart Bandits. We can lead you to the best decision for your proposal, and guide you through the process of making that proposal a reality. Contact us today!
Danny Penner