There comes a time when a man knows that he’s found the right woman and he wants to pursue the next step in his life. The days of hanging with the boys and living for yourself are gone. You have found “the one” and want to be with her for the rest of your life. Now comes the fun part, planning your proposal and making it as memorable as possible. Though your ultimate goal is to have her say ‘yes’, there are still many things to consider and to plan ahead for. Here are some proposal tips from The Heart Bandits to bear in mind:
Make Sure You’ve Covered Your Bases
You know that you love her and you know you want this next step but you need to be confident that she wants it too. Proposing to your woman as a way to save the relationship or because of some superficial reason is not the way to go. Picture your life together with everything including family, children, religion, living situation, recreational activities, and general banter together. If you are able to get along well together doing even the most mundane things, then that’s a good indicator. You want to be with a person that you look forward to spending your free time with.
Additionally, since you want her and you to now be family, try to be a part of her existing family. Your father probably asked your mother’s father for her hand in marriage, make sure you do the same. I recently asked my father how he proposed to my mother in Mexico and the tradition in his town back then was that he ask his future wife’s father what he must do to win her hand. My mom’s father informed my dad that he needed to come back in two years with four turkeys, a dozen loafs of bread, and large basket of corn. It may sound silly but my father needed to do that. So sure enough, two years later he was back with those items and gladly married my mother.
The Proposal Is About Her
Though you and your girlfriend may do everything together and are best friends, make sure that the proposal is tailored to her personality. While she may tolerate you watching baseball games, do not assume that she will be thrilled about the Jumbo Screen proposal at the Dodgers game. Because you’ve poked fun at her in front of others, do not assume that she would want to be proposed to in front of others.
Think about the type of person she is and the type of proposal that would truly make her melt. Would she like an intimate proposal at the beach after a candlelit picnic or would she prefer to be the center of attention during the moment she’s waited her life for? Would she prefer a glamorous day of pampering leading to the big moment or would a day of simplicity be more her style?
Evaluate Multiple Options and Seek Help
Create a list of possible proposal options that will each be unforgettable. Evaluate the likelihood of her enjoying each proposal. It is a very good idea to seek out help. Since you’ve already asked her father for his blessing, you may want to ask him or her mother if she’s ever envisioned any specific type of proposal. If you can make her fantasy engagement come true, make every effort possible. Run your ideas by your friends and her friends as well if possible.
Additionally, The Heart Bandits are available and would be of great assistance. Similar to wedding planners, The Heart Bandits will assist you with proposal ideas, vendor and venue negotiations, and day-of coordination and execution. On the day-of, you want to focus on doing your part and not having to worry about circumstances out of your control or other people doing their jobs.
Build the Anticipation
Once you’ve chosen your proposal plan, you want to make sure you have a timeline of the events planned out. Make sure you coordinate with the vendor or venue so they know what’s going on. If you’re planning to propose at a restaurant for example, it’s a good idea to inform the restaurant beforehand because they may be willing to help out and give you more perks, such as the most romantic seat in the house. Throughout the night, you want to throw tidbits of romance her way to build the anticipation. Though she might suspect you’re going to propose, she won’t know for sure and the anticipation will grow. If you’ve planned accordingly, everything within your control would have occurred and the moment has arrived. Getting down on one knee will never grow out of style and you want to make it worth it. Tell her how much you love her, ask her to marry you, present her with the ring, and wait for her to change your life.
Have an After-Party Plan
After she says yes, make sure that you have a plan for a celebration. There’s nothing wrong with proposing in the morning or during the day, but if you do so, make sure you have a plan for after the engagement. Good ideas would be to have a hotel arranged, a trendy lounge or club to go to afterwards, or a weekend getaway just for the two of you. Sharing the news with your friends and family is part of the celebration as well and could be part of your after plan.
It may be nerve-wracking planning and going through the marriage proposal process, but the end-result will be worth it. It will be a story that you tell your friends, family, children, and grandchildren. Make it as memorable as possible. Contact the Wedding Proposal Planners – The Heart Bandits to ensure that your marriage proposal is all that you and she ever dreamed of.
Marvin
