Most of the planning of a marriage proposal is about the big stuff- where to have it, how to stage it, whether you’ll have decorations, food, or music, what you’ll wear, and so on- but there are a lot of little details that need some attention as well. Here are five things that you should never forget when preparing to propose.

Make Ring Accessible

This seems totally obvious, but remember that you’re likely to be wearing nice clothes and be in an unfamiliar environment when you propose. If you plan to have the ring in your pocket, make sure that it’s easy to get out- fumbling is not the most romantic gesture, and you don’t want to make yourself even more nervous. If you’re planning to have the ring somewhere else, do a dry run to make sure that there are no problems with the place you’ve chosen.

Kneel

It may seem unnecessary to even mention, but going down on one knee is a vital part of a proposal. Not only does it serve as a signal that yes, really, you are proposing, but it is a romantic gesture that adds to the elegance and gravity of the moment.

Put A Ring on It

The engagement ring goes on her left ring finger. This is an important detail, because an engagement ring worn on any other finger is no longer an engagement ring, just a really pretty accessory. The placement of the ring, more than its size or expense, carries the meaning.  We have seen way too many guys put it on the wrong finger and it messes up the engagement photos!

Say the Words

Whether you have planned and rehearsed a short proposal speech, or just plan to say a few heartfelt words, or even if you’re proposing by song, there’s one very important thing that you must include- the actual words, “Will you marry me?” or something similar. All the protestations of love and devotion in the world are not sufficient for a proposal- there has to be a question for her to answer “Yes!” to.

Make Eye Contact

It’s too easy to keep your eyes elsewhere when you’re proposing- you may have a note card, if you have planned what you will say ahead of time, or you may end up looking at the ring box to make sure you’ve opened it properly. No matter what distractions there are, however, make sure you look up! Even if you have to glance away, it’s important that most of the time, you’re looking deep into her eyes.

There’s a lot to keep track of when planning a marriage proposal, and for best results we recommend that you hire a trusted Proposal Planner. Contact The Heart Bandits to receive expert advice on all aspects of your proposal, from the mundane details to the magical finishing touches.