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Most people experience anxiety and nervousness before proposing. Yet for some people, this anxiety can keep them from asking their partner to marry them. Don’t worry – there are many things that can be done to overcome this anxiety.

Be Mindful of Your Thought Patterns

If you constantly envision all of the things can go wrong and replay this over and over in your mind, your anxiety level will only continue to rise.  The next time you imagine something going wrong during your proposal, think of something you can do ahead of time to fix it so that it doesn’t happen.  Recognize that you have the power to change how you think.  Instead of focusing on all of the negative outcomes, focus on the positive. Envision your partner saying yes rather than them rejecting you. Remember that your partner is in a relationship with you for a reason.

Determine If You’re Really Ready

Some proposal anxiety may stem from not knowing if you’re really ready to take the next step.  If you feel pressure from your partner or from others to propose, you should wait until you’ve determined that this is really what you want.  If you can’t imagine life without your partner, and when you envision the future – your partner is always a part of it – that may be a sign that you are ready to make that commitment.

Talk About It

The best way to overcome anxiety is to release it out into the world by talking about it.  Choose supportive people in your life to speak to about your fears.  If you don’t feel comfortable speaking to someone you know, you can always hire a professional who can help walk you through your anxiety.

Having proposal anxiety is incredibly common. One way to combat this anxiety is to have a professional proposal planner to help you with all of the preparations. Our proposal experts at The Heart Bandits know how to ensure that your dream proposal is brought to life. We can handle everything from the venue to the flowers. No detail is overlooked in creating your perfect proposal.

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Christina Clawson