If your boyfriend’s proposal was perfect, and every detail was exactly as you had always dreamed it would be, then you’re lucky, and you can sit back and bask in the warm glow of your new engagement.
However, it’s possible that no matter how wonderful the proposal was, there are still a few lingering concerns. One of the most difficult problems to deal with, and one of the hardest to bring up, is a problem with the engagement ring. It might seem impossible to bring up without hurting him, but if you dislike your engagement ring, it’s important that you speak up. Here are a few tips for this difficult conversation:
Keep it private
Open this discussion at a time when you are alone together and can have the conversation without being interrupted or worrying about what others might thing.
Emphasize that the thought really does count
Underline the fact that you love the ring for everything that it represents, even if you would prefer another design.
Consider using the ‘sandwich’ approach
Praise him for a wonderful proposal and a thoughtful choice of ring, bring up the things you would like to change about the ring, and then underscore the things that you love about him and the proposal.
Be realistic and ready to compromise
If the ring was chosen in haste, or he had some bad advice when he picked it out, then it may be easy to convince him to trade it in for a design you can both agree on. If it’s a family heirloom, however, you may have to settle for slight changes to the setting , or simply come to love the ring you have. Remember that the relationship the ring represents is much more important than the ring itself.
If you’re worried about the choice or ring, or could use some guidance on any other aspect of your marriage proposal, contact The Heart Bandits. We are standing by to offer expert advice on every facet of your dream proposal.Marvin